Vileness

[trixtah]

I was downloading a Firefly vid from Megaupload, and they have lots of lovely advertising for adult dating sites and the like. There's a pop-up for Passion.com which circumvents the Fx pop-up blocker, meh.

Why is it that (nearly) every profile pic on these sites is just vile? Bad underwear, bad lighting, wierd desperate cultish expressions, incredibly unflattering body postures/positions etc, flesh bared in odd ways. And we won't talk about AdultFriendFinder.com. Obviously I'm getting old: I don't ever like looking at close-up pics of genitalia. And if you're looking for another woman, surely a pic of you screwing your hubby is not really going to do the thing? (especially when you say you're NOT after MFF threesomes!)

And, for those people I might chat to online, if I say (after a while, like several sessions, in a non-sexual context) "do you have a pic?", please do NOT send a pic of your tits. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd rather see your face before getting up close and personal with other parts of your anatomy. And really, I can wait to see those parts in the flesh. If ever. Honestly. I don't need pictures of boobies, I have my own to look at, ok? Thanks.

Does anyone wonder why I prefer bi women (and lesbos, actually) who have had some experience with women before they try to get in my pants?

Comments

[saluqi.livejournal.com]

Heh. I despise it, and a look into dot_bdsm_snark will confirm that it's a frequent snark target.

I have known some old timers to use it effectively on ssbb, but they never used the backslashes, they just lower-cased themselves and used conventional punctuation with everyone else. That gets to the key of using it successfully: leave other people out of it. As it's heirarchy based, there's something about saying Hello A/all that creeps me out because in the audience there are usually people who are neither dominant or submissive and people who may be, but consider it a private matter unrelated to social heirarchy.

Then there is the concern about crap boundaries when personal heirarchies become social heirarchies. I've had mates who've been kicked off chat channels for refusing to be proper submissives because they wouldn't lower case their names. Even when they said "my dominant partner thinks it's silly to lower case my name".

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

Yes, the "leave other people out of it" is a good principle. That sucks about your friends who didn't want to subscribe to that particular niche practice. Wankers. (not your friends)

And, hm, it seems to me like those freshly-out dykes that shave women's symbols into their (buzzcut) hair and drip with labrys jewellery - "proving" oneself that way looks a lot like insecurity from my perspective.