I have found that there are two things that seem to help the most when it comes to coping, with whatever situation in which I may find myself, but they prove to be the two hardest things I've ever had to do in my entire life.
1) To see the situation as it really is; totally objectively, uncolored by my own wants, desires, prejudices, delusions, fantasies, etc.
2) To see myself exactly as I am, again totally objectively, without the coloring and filtering (and blurring) that usually goes on when we look at ourselves.
I find that in the very few rare times that I can see both of these things as they are at that particular point in time, everything else, whether it be solutions, resolutions, resignations, whether it involves people or just circumstances, seem to become very apparent. There may still be lots of work to do, or pain to accept, but the real hard part is over.
I suppose you could say that I'm spending the rest of my life learning to see things (and myself) as they really are.
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1) To see the situation as it really is; totally objectively, uncolored by my own wants, desires, prejudices, delusions, fantasies, etc.
2) To see myself exactly as I am, again totally objectively, without the coloring and filtering (and blurring) that usually goes on when we look at ourselves.
I find that in the very few rare times that I can see both of these things as they are at that particular point in time, everything else, whether it be solutions, resolutions, resignations, whether it involves people or just circumstances, seem to become very apparent. There may still be lots of work to do, or pain to accept, but the real hard part is over.
I suppose you could say that I'm spending the rest of my life learning to see things (and myself) as they really are.