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kinzokutaka. I'm not going to paste the whole blurb about the "Five Love Languages", which is some "psychology guru's" pop-science way of describing the differing communication styles we use in relationships, but it's interesting food for thought.
Does anyone really think that gifts are a measure of someone's love for them? Ok, it's really nice to get them, especially when they're thoughtful ones, but as proof of someone's feelings? Hm.
The survey link is here.
And, yes, FWIW, I do think that quality time is the most important thing that someone can give me.
The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.
kinzokutaka. I'm not going to paste the whole blurb about the "Five Love Languages", which is some "psychology guru's" pop-science way of describing the differing communication styles we use in relationships, but it's interesting food for thought. Does anyone really think that gifts are a measure of someone's love for them? Ok, it's really nice to get them, especially when they're thoughtful ones, but as proof of someone's feelings? Hm.
The survey link is here.
And, yes, FWIW, I do think that quality time is the most important thing that someone can give me.
The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.
Complete set of results
| Quality Time: | 9 | |
| Acts of Service: | 7 | |
| Physical Touch: | 7 | |
| Words of Affirmation: | 7 | |
| Receiving Gifts: | 0 |
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(I don't know if you like gerberas, but they do pink with attitude :-)
Getting to the point, I totally agree that what people give you can be an interesting indication of what they think of you, how they want to manipulate you, and how clueless (or not) they are about what kind of person you are. (Don't ask me about the windchime with the anodised pink metal chimes, "crystal" dolphins and "gold" chains that my family got me for my 30th.)
The slant of the questions in the quiz seemed to me about people requiring gifts as proof of devotion, or needing those concrete symbols of it. I really enjoy gifts as tokens of someone's regard, yes, but more as an adjunct to the way they've proven their feelings in all the other ways.