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Sexy man-beasts
I was having a chat with one of my exes (and good friend) this morning, about identity politics. She's in a phase where she's unsure of what she's doing on the sexual orientation spectrum. I personally think that if a label fits, use it, but don't get boxed into owning 100% of a category. Anyone who is a reasonable human being is a more-or-less hazy constellation of the labels that might apply to them - as soon as you try to start defining yourself by absolutes, you'll have to start chopping bits off yourself to fit. The Procrustean myth is a good warning, IMO.
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saluqi, faxon and I were talking about Desperate Remedies, which is one of New Zealand's cooler and quirkier movies. I had to confess that I had a thing about Kevin Smith, one of the actors (of course, for saluqi, it was about the frocks). Also, a fey Cliff Curtis isn't a bad thing either.
So, in an effort to show that a fairly butch dyke isn't necessarily limited by her labels, I present you to you the four sexy man-beasts who I actually do go "Phwoar!" at:
Secondly, yesterday while I was helping them dog-wrangle,
saluqi, faxon and I were talking about Desperate Remedies, which is one of New Zealand's cooler and quirkier movies. I had to confess that I had a thing about Kevin Smith, one of the actors (of course, for saluqi, it was about the frocks). Also, a fey Cliff Curtis isn't a bad thing either.
So, in an effort to show that a fairly butch dyke isn't necessarily limited by her labels, I present you to you the four sexy man-beasts who I actually do go "Phwoar!" at:
- Naveen Andrews (ok, hair and eyes, I know, I know)
- Hugh Jackman (do I need to say more? But I wish he'd get better haircuts in RL).
- Lenny Kravitz (and why can't I find suits like this to wear? I suppose not being a filthy rich rock star might have something to do with it. And big boobs would spoil the line. *sigh*)
- The aforementioned Kevin Smith, and him in Desperate Remedies (it's all about the sideburns, mmm.)
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Quiet strength, a nice voice, humour, lack of sexism, lack of passive-aggressive "baby me" behaviour, and, er, long hair and grooming
Well... his hair isn't long... although he may lose some points on the "baby me" part, if I understand what you mean correctly - his behaviour would be odd on that count. But lack of sexism - he's got 100% there. Anyway, Torchwood is a show I definitely think you will enjoy (pimp, pimp, pimp...)
(btw, it was long hair men for me for a good length of time - they still catch my eye - but I discovered that _most_ men with long hair tend to be... even more infantile than the average, so I sort of... wait for other characteristics to become evident)
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Re Captain Jack, I had to think about it a bit. I find John Barrowman does suave and hunky leading man really well, but hm, I don't find "mysterious" and "commanding" attractive qualities. If we want to talk about tropes, I like Darcy because his seeming-arrogance is based in discernment, and his "mysteriousness" is more an insistence on people seeing him on his own merits, not on his blowing his own horn. But I don't like Rochester (pre- or post-blindness) or especially Heathcliff, because I don't like broody controlling men (or anyone) who refuse to divulge their reasons for acting in a certain way.
While Captain Jack is nicely decisive and takes responsibility for his actions, he's too much of a leader who expects everyone to follow unquestioning in his wake. Not my thing. But you're definitely right about the non-sexism, and I like his ambiguous sexuality, and it'll be interesting to see if his interactions with Gwen break down his arrogance in certain areas.
As for the long hair, I like it in guys who aren't under the delusion they're male models or rock musicians or who have bad personal hygiene. Which seems to be a lot of guys with long hair! A clean, non-girly, sensitive-looking guy with longer-than-usual hair can sometimes catch my eye, but you're right in that I need a lot of other things to make one attractive. Like nice sideburns too. Nicely-shaped, not bushy, not too short, not too broad. Hee!
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Hmm. I like a man to have some leadership qualities. Right now, a lot of them (but that's probably a reaction - my ex was _indecisive_ to the point of driving me to hysterics - and if I happened to insist on a decision, he would spend the next forever complaining on the decision's shortcomings).
And I don't mind enigmatic persons at all, or mysterious... although that I can do without.
I love Darcy and Rochester. I stopped liking Heathcliff when he gave up and ran away. Rochester lied to Jane and tried to trick her into what she wouldn't do, but he managed to redeem that later.
Btw, arrogance was what I saw in Captain Jack in the first episode. It had escalated, from my PoV, to cynicism, although that was ameliorated a little in the fifth episode. (For some reason him crying in the shadows make me think of the phrase "the angels are weeping" - and I'm not sure he's quite an angel).
Re long hair, I think we're on the same mind there.
Re sideburns - I don't think they ever really caugh their ground in this neck of the woods. That is to say, I haven't seen all that many men with sideburns. (But reading your comment made me think of the clip I saw on youtube of Rose witnessing the transformation between doctors Nine and Ten. "I've got SIDEBURNS!" ROFL oh yes. Which makes me think of another pair of sideburns - Gerard Butler - what do you think of him? He played the Phantom of the Opera with sideburns; I have not yet seen him as Atila or Beowulf, I suppose he doesn't sport sideburns _there_)
Anyway, greetings from me :)
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Re Rochester, I know he was supposedly redeemed, but I wasn't convinced by it. I suppose I'm just a suspicious person. I can see why Jane was attracted to him, and if he hadn't been so manipulative I suppose I might have found him more appealing. Still, it was nice to have a happy ending.
As for sideburns, I'm afraid I think Gerald Butler's in Phantom were fairly hideous. There aren't that many men who have the right facial shape to carry off sidies extending beyond the bottom of the ear (unless they are following a line at the top of the jaw). And they were fluffy while his hair was slicked back behind his ears. Ick ick ick. I think the way he has his sideburns in RL is just fine though.
Most men look good with them extending to between the middle of the ear and the bottom of it. Having them cut off level with the TOP of the ear is very 1984. Yuck.
I don't know why I feel so strongly about them... but I suppose these things often aren't rational.
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Re Rochester - I didn't say he had changed, I said his actions in the fire redeemed his behaviour against Bertha somewhat. Agreed for the happy ending. I love them - although it's refreshing when the ending isn't happy, now and then. That's mainly about Hollywood movies.
Re Sideburns - I think you've had a lot of observation and have made up your mind. I still haven't seen a lot of 'em, so I really cannot say what I think about them. And no, these things aren't exactly rational :)
BTW, returning to John Barrowman... Have you seen this video (http://youtube.com/watch?v=BdSszlp8aVQ) of John Barrowman introducing and singing "I am what I am"? I was impressed - the song sort of fits his life...
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(your link to the movie appears to be buggered, it starts with what looks like the correct URL but that then zips me to an ad)
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Thanks for the heads-up with the bad link - I have an ad-block thingie in Firefox which tends to make me immune to such things. I found a better link now. :-)
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: )
Naveen does good hair - I have a thing for good guy hair too
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As for guy hair, my excuse is that I'm fairly anal about mine. Actually, I'm fussy about bad hair on women too. I have to admit I've only been out with one woman with a GDH (Generic Dyke Haircut).
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You have good taste in men. ;)