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trixtahThis isn't about real kinks, sorry, just mine.
When I was in Brisbane, I met an online chat friend of my SOBNQEG (whom I'll have to come up with another nick for, now that we're doing the wild thing again - YEEEHA! *ahem*), and, as you do when you're two dykes and you get together, we talked about past relationships and such like.
During our conversation, I mentioned that virtually all of my ex girlfriends were bi or straight (90% of them). She - of course - asked why that was, and I really didn't have an answer for her. I burbled something about preferring women who are more "femmy" than I am. I seriously do not do diesel dykes. But I like tomboyish women if they're straight (or bi). And I've been wondering since, what's up with that?
Is there a name for my kink? I don't seek out straight women to "convert" them. If anything, I prefer women to be bisexual, because then there isn't any of the OMGwhaddifImadyke! angst. I'm not in search of "unattainable" women, because, despite appearances at times, I really do prefer to be in a committed relationship (not that I don't cope happily without. heh). I'm not secretly homophobic or subliminally looking for a "conventional" relationship, because, you know, at my age, you're so over that kind of angst.
I suppose that part of it is that I'm not any more neurotic at propositioning straight women than I am other lesbos, which tends to up the chance that I'll get more of them in proportion. But then again, I normally socialise with other queer people, so it's not as it I'm really mixing in an utterly heterosexual mileu (although Canberra feels very straight. There is a huge underground kink scene here - for the size of this town - but it is just that, underground. Bloody wierd, if you ask me).
Maybe it is just that gender preference thing - I like women who are girlier than I am, but preferably girly with an edge, and not heading into high-maintenance territory. I admit, with straight women in particular, when it's definitely going to be a fling, I do enjoy the thrill of the chase. But that's not for relationship material.
Well, I don't know. I've been ruminating on this one for weeks, and it's bugging me. It's not going to stop me from enjoying who I have in my life now though. :-)
When I was in Brisbane, I met an online chat friend of my SOBNQEG (whom I'll have to come up with another nick for, now that we're doing the wild thing again - YEEEHA! *ahem*), and, as you do when you're two dykes and you get together, we talked about past relationships and such like.
During our conversation, I mentioned that virtually all of my ex girlfriends were bi or straight (90% of them). She - of course - asked why that was, and I really didn't have an answer for her. I burbled something about preferring women who are more "femmy" than I am. I seriously do not do diesel dykes. But I like tomboyish women if they're straight (or bi). And I've been wondering since, what's up with that?
Is there a name for my kink? I don't seek out straight women to "convert" them. If anything, I prefer women to be bisexual, because then there isn't any of the OMGwhaddifImadyke! angst. I'm not in search of "unattainable" women, because, despite appearances at times, I really do prefer to be in a committed relationship (not that I don't cope happily without. heh). I'm not secretly homophobic or subliminally looking for a "conventional" relationship, because, you know, at my age, you're so over that kind of angst.
I suppose that part of it is that I'm not any more neurotic at propositioning straight women than I am other lesbos, which tends to up the chance that I'll get more of them in proportion. But then again, I normally socialise with other queer people, so it's not as it I'm really mixing in an utterly heterosexual mileu (although Canberra feels very straight. There is a huge underground kink scene here - for the size of this town - but it is just that, underground. Bloody wierd, if you ask me).
Maybe it is just that gender preference thing - I like women who are girlier than I am, but preferably girly with an edge, and not heading into high-maintenance territory. I admit, with straight women in particular, when it's definitely going to be a fling, I do enjoy the thrill of the chase. But that's not for relationship material.
Well, I don't know. I've been ruminating on this one for weeks, and it's bugging me. It's not going to stop me from enjoying who I have in my life now though. :-)
