Not so much imprinting, although there's a degree of what you've been exposed to being familiar and therefore sort-of comfortable even when it's drastically wrong and you know that (I have the same issue with perfectionism). But more, when you were growing up, you didn't get to see examples of your parents resolving difficult emotional issues in productive ways.
I've been reading about this (why? you ask :-) and children absorb a lot from their parents' behaviour, including the stuff not directed at the children. Eg, if you want your children to read a lot, it turns out to be less important whether you read a lot to your children than whether you read a lot yourself.
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Date: 2011-05-25 02:52 am (UTC)I've been reading about this (why? you ask :-) and children absorb a lot from their parents' behaviour, including the stuff not directed at the children. Eg, if you want your children to read a lot, it turns out to be less important whether you read a lot to your children than whether you read a lot yourself.