I'm not terribly surprised about some prescriptivism in the bdsm scene. There is that section of the community that are very much into the ritualistic aspect ("high protocol" and the like), and I tend to conflate a great reliance on ritual with a great reliance on control.
And if there are control freaks around, there are bizarro "rules" and plenty of instances of double-think syndrome. *sigh*. I think that the (non-bdsm) polys that indulge in that behaviour are just more passive-aggressive about it (you know, the potential-Moonie-recruits who genuinely believe they "love everyone"; it's just that those other people have issues and aren't open).
I really have no patience for any of it, no matter what "community" the offenders align themselves with. The worst police state I ever ended up in was the Michigan "Womyn's" Music Festival... (long story, never again).
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Date: 2005-12-07 05:32 am (UTC)And if there are control freaks around, there are bizarro "rules" and plenty of instances of double-think syndrome. *sigh*. I think that the (non-bdsm) polys that indulge in that behaviour are just more passive-aggressive about it (you know, the potential-Moonie-recruits who genuinely believe they "love everyone"; it's just that those other people have issues and aren't open).
I really have no patience for any of it, no matter what "community" the offenders align themselves with. The worst police state I ever ended up in was the Michigan "Womyn's" Music Festival... (long story, never again).