I have no idea what you are talking about, and I don't need to know, but this came to mind when I was reading your post:
There was a time in my life when both my best friend and I were going out with people who were just terrible for us, and thus, we were making crappy choices each day we stayed with the persons in question and put up with their bullshit. Each of us could see that in the other, we could even see it in ourselves but we weren't yet ready to kick the crappy relationships to the kerb.
So we alternatively listened sympathetically, and got cranky with each other. What saved the friendship was the fact that we'd already seen girlfriends come and go, and we knew that eventually we would pick ourselves up and be the women we wanted to be, the women we should be, even.
So while the progression may not have been obvious (You went back to her? What? Are you crazy?! *Bangs head on table*. *Makes tea*) there was faith that the progression was there on some level. An important part of that was the mutual understanding of the places one finds oneself before one can take the steps one needs to take.
It was a real lesson for me about patience. It was also a lesson for me about how to help my friends have patience with me.
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Date: 2006-05-29 10:56 am (UTC)There was a time in my life when both my best friend and I were going out with people who were just terrible for us, and thus, we were making crappy choices each day we stayed with the persons in question and put up with their bullshit. Each of us could see that in the other, we could even see it in ourselves but we weren't yet ready to kick the crappy relationships to the kerb.
So we alternatively listened sympathetically, and got cranky with each other. What saved the friendship was the fact that we'd already seen girlfriends come and go, and we knew that eventually we would pick ourselves up and be the women we wanted to be, the women we should be, even.
So while the progression may not have been obvious (You went back to her? What? Are you crazy?! *Bangs head on table*. *Makes tea*) there was faith that the progression was there on some level. An important part of that was the mutual understanding of the places one finds oneself before one can take the steps one needs to take.
It was a real lesson for me about patience. It was also a lesson for me about how to help my friends have patience with me.