Hrm. I think it's often possible to explore the position in greater depth without arguing or otherwise creating more angst than understanding. Of course, sometimes that takes patience that might not result in much of a payoff in terms of greater understanding (religious questions spring immediately to mind). And sometimes it takes an act of strength and/or courage when the relationship is already under pressure; the old rock the boat issue.
I find that testing "person I know" to "person I don't know" approaches and attitudes is a really useful process personally. In my view, people are often hampered by excusing too much from those they know, and rejecting too much from those they don't. Not always, but often.
I also like what ataniell93 has to say re "wrong about blah" as opposed to "a fuckwit"
As to whether I need people to march in lockstep, I don't, but there are some matters where a particular point of view will necessarily limit how close I get to a person.
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Date: 2006-08-04 08:30 am (UTC)I find that testing "person I know" to "person I don't know" approaches and attitudes is a really useful process personally. In my view, people are often hampered by excusing too much from those they know, and rejecting too much from those they don't. Not always, but often.
I also like what
As to whether I need people to march in lockstep, I don't, but there are some matters where a particular point of view will necessarily limit how close I get to a person.