Dear (some) puppy-pile poly people

Just because you're poly, it does not necessarily mean you are happy to see your partner engaging in sexual foreplay with someone else. Yes, for many poly people that's true, but "many loves" is actually not the same as "happy with group sex". I realise that might be surprising to some.

And to state that someone has "deeper issues" with the relationship when she is angry with her husband groping his g/f in front of her, when she has previously asked that he does not, is fucking rude, frankly.

Sure, it might mean that someone has issues with the poly thing or that particular person. So what? It doesn't actually matter, if they're willing to carry on the relationship on the agreed-to basis with no drama. But assuming, without knowing anyone involved, that "issues with the relationship" is the root cause of the dislike for PDAs, is just ridiculous.

Shopping amusement

So I trundled off to the Belconnen markets to do a bit of holiday food gathering today, and was lured into the clutches of the book remainders store, as usual. It's a very good one of its kind. I ended up buying over 100 bucks' worth of books, including this one on knots (I have zillions already, but I seem to like knot books in the same way I like cookbooks). The young chap behind the counter was totalling my purchases and said "Wow, we were just talking about how popular this book on tying knots is! We keep getting it in and it keeps selling! We haven't figured out why so many people are buying it!"

I did manage to keep a completely straight face, and said "Well, it can be handy to know a few good knots". He gave me this look of "Why do you need more than a granny knot or a bow for anything?" and after a few moments, a glimmer of illumination started to seep through. I think. He was very efficient - but still pleasant - with the rest of the transaction.

Also, wine salesguy at the primo wineshop in Manuka? Saying "Gosh, yes, customers keep asking for different kinds of sherry. It seems they have real problems tracking good stuff down", when you've only got five middling-range kinds at the back of the shop, seems to me like someone is missing a sales opportunity here. Do you think?