Dear (some) puppy-pile poly people
Dec. 20th, 2008 12:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
trixtahJust because you're poly, it does not necessarily mean you are happy to see your partner engaging in sexual foreplay with someone else. Yes, for many poly people that's true, but "many loves" is actually not the same as "happy with group sex". I realise that might be surprising to some.
And to state that someone has "deeper issues" with the relationship when she is angry with her husband groping his g/f in front of her, when she has previously asked that he does not, is fucking rude, frankly.
Sure, it might mean that someone has issues with the poly thing or that particular person. So what? It doesn't actually matter, if they're willing to carry on the relationship on the agreed-to basis with no drama. But assuming, without knowing anyone involved, that "issues with the relationship" is the root cause of the dislike for PDAs, is just ridiculous.
And to state that someone has "deeper issues" with the relationship when she is angry with her husband groping his g/f in front of her, when she has previously asked that he does not, is fucking rude, frankly.
Sure, it might mean that someone has issues with the poly thing or that particular person. So what? It doesn't actually matter, if they're willing to carry on the relationship on the agreed-to basis with no drama. But assuming, without knowing anyone involved, that "issues with the relationship" is the root cause of the dislike for PDAs, is just ridiculous.
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Date: 2008-12-20 02:30 am (UTC)Some days the stupid, it burrrrrns.
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Date: 2008-12-20 10:11 am (UTC)thoughts
Date: 2008-12-20 02:41 am (UTC)2. Wait. You mean that poly can be more than mostly het couples wanting a hot bi babe for group sex?
3. "Deeper issues" clearly includes getting upset when people break promises.
Re: thoughts
Date: 2008-12-20 10:14 am (UTC)1. I know! There are poly people who aren't pagans, geeks, liberals, bisexual or open-minded in any way whatsoever. OMG!!1!
2. Um. I'm probably mistaken, at least according to those morons.
3. Some people are just too critical for words. What do you mean, "appropriate boundaries"?
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Date: 2008-12-20 03:01 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-12-20 10:14 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-12-21 08:55 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-12-22 12:51 pm (UTC)