Vileness

[trixtah]

I was downloading a Firefly vid from Megaupload, and they have lots of lovely advertising for adult dating sites and the like. There's a pop-up for Passion.com which circumvents the Fx pop-up blocker, meh.

Why is it that (nearly) every profile pic on these sites is just vile? Bad underwear, bad lighting, wierd desperate cultish expressions, incredibly unflattering body postures/positions etc, flesh bared in odd ways. And we won't talk about AdultFriendFinder.com. Obviously I'm getting old: I don't ever like looking at close-up pics of genitalia. And if you're looking for another woman, surely a pic of you screwing your hubby is not really going to do the thing? (especially when you say you're NOT after MFF threesomes!)

And, for those people I might chat to online, if I say (after a while, like several sessions, in a non-sexual context) "do you have a pic?", please do NOT send a pic of your tits. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd rather see your face before getting up close and personal with other parts of your anatomy. And really, I can wait to see those parts in the flesh. If ever. Honestly. I don't need pictures of boobies, I have my own to look at, ok? Thanks.

Does anyone wonder why I prefer bi women (and lesbos, actually) who have had some experience with women before they try to get in my pants?

Comments

[buddleia.livejournal.com]

*laughs and laughs and laughs*
Oh, honey. Let's face it, sites like that are not for The Likes Of Us. They're aimed squarely at men. And the people you are chatting to? Don't seem all that bright. Maybe they're flashing their boobs in a placatory, wolf-pack type move.

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

Honestly. I haven't been on a girly chatsite for months. This week I get talking to this woman about movies etc, and out come the breasts! I think I'll give it a rest again. Maybe talking about Mrs Henderson Presents was threatening? Heh. "Watch out, I'm going to talk about British Comedy. Placation NOW!"

I'll keep that in mind for when I really do want to see the boobs. It'd be a more creative chatup line. :-)

And you're right about the sites predominately aimed at men. I just wonder what happens to some of these women if they start liking the girlsex lots... not just when hubby is around. Acutally, I know, they email strange women pictures of their breasts when they weren't expecting them.

[buddleia.livejournal.com]

*snork*
Classic straight girl thing, though. I'm talking to a lesbo! Quick! She wants breasts!

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

I know, it's chronic, eh? Because us dykes are just like men! All the drama and none of the (permanently attached) cock..!

[saluqi.livejournal.com]

Thanks to this post, I just did a basic search for women seeking women in Australia on both of those sites. AFF is a darned sight scarier than passion.com but, well, eep!

Hrm, revenge. Ah, here we are: collarme.com (http://www.collarme.com), although on this site the text is frequently scarier than the photos. I used the same search criteria and came up with this:

I am defanatly looking for a female conpanian, for more than just a 1 off play.. not to say i dont like men as i do , but i have my prioratys . So lets chatt first and see how things progress ........Im female supramist....

*runs off to find eyewash*

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

Argh! Bad you! It's nice to know that chickie has her "prioratys". I wonder if that's a Greek STD? And being a female "supramist", well, aren't we all?

Actually, you're right, the photos are actually pretty decent. I love all the txt-spk that abounds as well. Way to look really intelligent. What do you feel about the U/us W/we thing? I understand the rationale, but it seems... unnecessary.

[saluqi.livejournal.com]

Heh. I despise it, and a look into dot_bdsm_snark will confirm that it's a frequent snark target.

I have known some old timers to use it effectively on ssbb, but they never used the backslashes, they just lower-cased themselves and used conventional punctuation with everyone else. That gets to the key of using it successfully: leave other people out of it. As it's heirarchy based, there's something about saying Hello A/all that creeps me out because in the audience there are usually people who are neither dominant or submissive and people who may be, but consider it a private matter unrelated to social heirarchy.

Then there is the concern about crap boundaries when personal heirarchies become social heirarchies. I've had mates who've been kicked off chat channels for refusing to be proper submissives because they wouldn't lower case their names. Even when they said "my dominant partner thinks it's silly to lower case my name".

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

Yes, the "leave other people out of it" is a good principle. That sucks about your friends who didn't want to subscribe to that particular niche practice. Wankers. (not your friends)

And, hm, it seems to me like those freshly-out dykes that shave women's symbols into their (buzzcut) hair and drip with labrys jewellery - "proving" oneself that way looks a lot like insecurity from my perspective.

[ladylamia.livejournal.com]

i like you :) i would like to add you if that's ok?

those sites are very frightening! i guess i'm old fashioned too because if someone sent me a boob photo i'd be like, wtf?

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

No problem, if you don't mind my rantings on all sorts of boring stuff. Just so long as you don't send me a boob photo. :-)

[ladylamia.livejournal.com]

that's pretty much a requirement for me to like ya, rambling about boring stuff.

ha! don't worry about the boob photo, the best you'd ever get from me would be a low cut top/clevage shot. i like to keep something to the imagination!

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

Hah! Cleavage is just fine. :-)

[ladylamia.livejournal.com]

you just gotta have standards ;) that's all!!
i love the icon btw.